Goodbye January

February has arrived. Now is the time to reflect on how the previous month went for you. Were your actions in alignment with your goals? How will you modify your goals for this month?

January was a whirlwind for me. I mourned the loss of two grandmothers, was (and still am) in the process of buying our first home, and finished it off by being quite ill. With that being said, I have so much to be grateful for. I am lucky to have a supportive and loving family, the ability and finances to purchase a home, and an understanding workplace that doubles as my doctor’s office.

I took the first month of this year to focus on bettering myself. This is one thing that I plan to continue throughout the next eleven months. I have almost completed my first self-help book of 2019 and it has definitely helped to recenter my life.

My habit tracker for January consisted of blogging, reading, exercise, cleaning, meditation, hydration, sleeping 8 hours, clean eating, photography, and pampering myself. After evaluating my performance for the past month, I have adjusted my tracked habits depending on things that I either did really well and don’t feel necessary to track or did poorly in and find it not a priority at this time. This month I am going to focus on blogging, reading, doing 1 minute of planks per day (to help strengthen my back from previous injuries), hydrating, pampering myself, making our bed, doing dishes, clean eating, meditating, and not using my phone until after 8am. I am hoping that these things will become habits when I prioritize them for this month.

I am determined to make 2019 the best and most positive year yet. Sure, it’ll take some hard work, but it will be worth it.

So reflect on the past month, plan for this month, and keep on moving. You can do anything you put your mind to.

Love Always,

Elizabeth

Impressionable Future

So much of the person we are today was taught to us and molded from our childhoods. From our values to our self-esteem, we start picking up on ques at a young age. Being an adult now, I have started to think about the affect that what I say and do will have on the children around me.

I remember being an impressionable young woman and looking up to other females around me. Hearing the critiques that adults had about themselves made me, in some respects, more critical of myself. It was hard to be confident in myself when women who I thought were beautiful would talk¬† about their “flaws” frequently. Weight was a big factor in these discussions. I want to premise this by saying that I have been 5′ 6″ and curvy since I was in the sixth grade. It was frustrating for me to hear women who were smaller in stature than me to negatively comment on their weight.

If and when I have children, I want to try my hardest to refrain from using negative self-talk around them. Weight can be such a dangerous topic and I don’t want my daughter (or son) to feel like their worth is correlated to the number on a scale. It can be incredibly easy to become obsessed with weight, weight-loss, diet, and food consumption which is a slippery slope to begin at any age, let alone as young person.

The things we say often affect the people around us more than we realize. We should focus on positive self-talk and influencing those around us to think more positively.  We should be molding our future leaders into strong and independent individuals instead of instilling our own self-doubt into the children growing around us.

Live radiantly for yourself and your loved ones.

Love Always,

Elizabeth

Frizz-free Self-care

I’m not one of those women who go to the salon to get their hair done regularly. Honestly, I haven’t been to a salon to get my hair cut in over a year and a half. I have decided to just trim my hair on my own in our bathroom. My experience with hair dressers has not been pleasant. I am sure that there are some stellar stylists out there, but in my area there aren’t many who know how to deal with my hair texture.

I have very fine hair, but it is curly. Let me tell you that frizz is a real thing. I cringe at the thought of a blow-dryer. Every time I go to the salon, no matter how many times I tell them I can’t use a hair dryer and that I will just let my hair air dry, they insist that they know what they’re doing and use the dryer anyway. And alas my hair becomes a puffy mess. I dread it. I’ve left salons in tears more times than not. I know it’s just hair, but when you finally decide to do something for yourself and invest money in your appearance and then leave feeling worse about yourself, it sucks.

I continue to style and cut my own hair. The last time I’ve dyed my hair was about two years ago and it was unfortunately from a box. I know, bad idea. I am glad that hair dyes and heating products are no longer a part of my routine, but I miss the self-care aspect of things.

So how can I pamper myself without the anxiety of going to a salon? There are a ton of options. I can use a face mask or paint my nails. I can convince my husband to give me a foot massage or enjoy a hair mask. I can take a warm bath or give myself a makeover. There are so many options.

Instead of making self-care a frustrating part of life, I can focus on creating pleasant moments in my day that recharge my energy. Even just drinking plenty of water, exercising, sleeping enough hours, and thinking more positively are huge self-care items.

What makes you feel good about yourself?

Do you make self-care an important part of your day?

Love yourself so you can love the people around you.

Love Always,

Elizabeth