I recently bought a book of writing prompts and one of the questions I answered today was about what kind of qualities would I want my personal assistant to have. This got me thinking about the qualities that I look for in a friend and the qualities that others may find in me.
I personally value integrity, honesty, loyalty, kindness, creativity, intelligence, self-motivation, among other things. After realizing this, I spent some time reflecting on myself and my character. If I look for these characteristics in the people I surround myself with, then I should probably be integrity-filled, honest, loyal, and so-on.
When working on ourselves, maybe we should strive to be someone that we would want to be friends with. If you don’t think that you are someone who you would want to be around if you were someone else, then maybe you should evaluate why that is and what you can do to become a better person or change your self-view.
If you value honesty in your friendships, be truthful. If you value creativity, allow yourself to have creative outlets. Better yourself by understanding what being a good friend means to you.
I don’t know if I believe that you become just like the five people you spend the most time with, but I do think that the people you surround yourself with influence who you are. If you surround yourself with negative people, that energy could bring you down and make you a more negative person. It can be extremely tiring for me to be around negative people. I’m not saying I am constantly positive and only have good thoughts, but people who are constantly negative take a lot out of me.
Surround yourself with good people who have similar values to you and work on being a person that you would want to spend your time with. There is no time better spent than the time used to work on your happiness.