Outgoing Introvert

I always felt as if I didn’t fit into a category of introvert or extrovert. I thought that if I wasn’t one or the other – then what was I? It takes me a little while to figure people out and get comfortable with them, but once I know you and like you…you can’t get me to be quiet. I’m sarcastic and energetic, but can be analytical and calculating too. I don’t put myself out there to meet new people, but I do hold those that I know closely. Sometimes I am spunky and other times I’m reserved.

Recently I heard someone talking about a book that they read about parenting a spirited child. She said that the book outlined what it means to be an introvert versus an extrovert. This is the kicker: it’s not about how you are around other people, it’s about how you recharge yourself. That made complete sense to me. Some people find comfort and inner peace by being surrounded by other people while others need time to be alone.

This had me reflecting a lot on my life.  When I have had an overwhelming day, I don’t want to talk or be touched or be around other people – I want to have space to reflect on my day and boost my energy. Once I feel relaxed and recharged, I am ready to face what life has coming my way. And that’s okay. Oh, and it’s okay to be an extrovert too! And it’s okay to be a little bit of both.

Ultimately it’s not about fitting into a category and knowing your place in the world, but instead it’s about self-actualization and knowing yourself.

Do you know what makes you emotionally well? What helps you to recharge?

Take care of yourself and find what makes you happy.

Love Always,

Elizabeth

Dear Younger Me,

I have learned a lot about life since high school. The past five and a half years have been a whirlwind of opportunities and heartbreak. I often think about what I would tell my past self if I could go back in time.

I would tell myself that things seem hard now, but it will get better. When you are in a situation, things seem so overwhelming and like the hardships will never end, but this is only temporary.

Don’t let unimportant situations bring you down. When something is bothering you, think about if it will matter in five years. If it won’t, then don’t waste your time and energy dwelling on it.

Don’t worry about what others are saying. When people say mean things, it’s a reflection of who they are, not who you are. Don’t let the negativity that they feel bring you down. Keep your head high and know that you are more than other’s words.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. You might not realize it now, but you are beautiful and one day you will look back and wish you noticed it in the moment.

Take advantage of the opportunities that are presented to you. Don’t let a man or your fears prevent you from seizing the moment. Take that missions trip to Europe,  join the Peace Corps and go to Africa, enjoy the rain forests of Costa Rica, and road trip to California. You will never regret the chances you took, but you will regret missing out on opportunities.

It’s okay to be young. Don’t try to grow up too fast. You will only be eighteen once. You will only be nineteen once. Being the youngest person in the group isn’t a bad thing. You have your whole life ahead of you and soon enough you will have a ton of responsibilities to worry about. Enjoy the freedom.

Don’t be sorry for everything you do. You aren’t an inconvenience. You aren’t bothering people. You are worth more than you realize.

Sometimes the people that we love will hurt us the most. It’s okay to say enough is enough and leave the situation. It doesn’t make you a weak person; it just means that you value yourself enough to realize you don’t deserve to be treated that way.

I don’t regret anything that I have done in the past because it lead me to where I am today, but I do realize that I learned a lot over the past few years. I’m grateful for the lessons I have learned and the opportunities that I did take advantage of.

Reflection harbors growth.

Love Always,

Elizabeth

Friendship Values

I recently bought a book of writing prompts and one of the questions I answered today was about what kind of qualities would I want my personal assistant to have. This got me thinking about the qualities that I look for in a friend and the qualities that others may find in me.

I personally value integrity, honesty, loyalty, kindness, creativity, intelligence, self-motivation, among other things. After realizing this, I spent some time reflecting on myself and my character. If I look for these characteristics in the people I surround myself with, then I should probably be integrity-filled, honest, loyal, and so-on.

When working on ourselves, maybe we should strive to be someone that we would want to be friends with. If you don’t think that you are someone who you would want to be around if you were someone else, then maybe you should evaluate why that is and what you can do to become a better person or change your self-view.

If you value honesty in your friendships, be truthful. If you value creativity, allow yourself to have creative outlets. Better yourself by understanding what being a good friend means to you.

I don’t know if I believe that you become just like the five people you spend the most time with, but I do think that the people you surround yourself with influence who you are. If you surround yourself with negative people, that energy could bring you down and make you a more negative person. It can be extremely tiring for me to be around negative people. I’m not saying I am constantly positive and only have good thoughts, but people who are constantly negative take a lot out of me.

Surround yourself with good people who have similar values to you and work on being a person that you would want to spend your time with. There is no time better spent than the time used to work on your happiness.

Love Always,

Elizabeth